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Introvert in an Extrovert Profession

Introvert in an Extrovert Profession

When I have a conversation about introversion vs. extroversion, the usual comment is, “No way are you an introvert.” Understandable since the chamber profession is a 24/7 calling. Even when off the clock — pumping gas or grocery shopping — invariably you will see someone you know, and you’ll acknowledge that you recognize them, and the conversation begins. It’s sort of like being in political office, you always have to be “on” and ready to engage.

Even the dictionary gets it wrong, in my opinion. Merriam-Webster defines an introvert as a “shy, reticent person.”  Introversion vs. extroversion is about temperament — where you gain your energy and how you prefer to interact with the world. Sure, some introverts are naturally shy, but I believe that superficial definition leads to a lot of misunderstanding.

Let me start by saying it’s not about being antisocial, or not wanting to engage with people — it’s about our energy. Interactions with others drain an introvert’s energy, and we need solitude or time alone to recharge our batteries.

It can be hard to spot an introvert (hence the typical comment I reference in the first sentence). Here are a few of the things people should know about us:

  • Small talk is hard. If at times it seems like we don’t know what to say, it’s because chit chat is difficult. It’s not because we’re not interested in others or don’t have anything to say, it’s because we see talking about the weather or some other trivial subject as a barrier to meaningful conversations.

  • We are very observant. I get accused at times of having “eagle ears” in the office because I am usually aware of everything going on. It’s probably annoying at times to my extroverted co-workers and seems like I’m monitoring their activities, but it’s just a hyperawareness of my surroundings. In social settings, I find that makes me particularly aware of others and their needs or comfort levels.

  • We like being alone….sometimes. An introvert can feel alone in a room full of people, which isn’t always the best feeling. However, we are also quite content to do things alone (go the movies, eat at a restaurant, etc.). I’ve never understood how anyone can be afraid to do something or go somewhere alone. Being alone is a necessity at times, so we can gear up for the next interaction.

  • We need extroverts. I am in awe watching people who thrive on social interactions, and often wish I was more like them. In truth, being around extroverts can be tiring, but it also pushes us to be less inward focused. It is also helpful when you have an extrovert “partner” — friend, co-worker, spouse — who can recognize when you need some help blocking external stimuli.  

So, the next time you see me sitting alone at a restaurant reading my book — know that I’m most likely perfectly content. But don’t feel as though you are intruding if you are compelled to say hello and engage in conversation. I welcome the interaction.

Marcia Gaedcke
is president of the Titusville Area Chamber of Commerce and a lifetime resident of Titusville and Brevard County. She is a passionate leader and a serial volunteer, concerned about the future of our community and economy, and is willing to roll up her sleeves and work for the betterment of Brevard.

 

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