Love, Light & Forgiveness

A recent quote on motherhood that has inspired me, “Being a Mother is not about what you gave up having a child, but what you’ve gained from having one.” ~ Unknown

This quote got me to thinking. What have I gained from each of my children? Being a Mom is hard work. The responsibilities are virtually endless. We are teachers, counselors, protectors, providers, a friend and disciplinarian all in one. We are a source of inspiration and encouragement; we love unconditionally while trying to reduce risks and stress. In my opinion; it is the hardest yet most rewarding job a woman can experience.

As a young mother I remember being afraid. I was mostly afraid of making a mistake with the precious gift that God had entrusted me with. As you know they don’t come with directions! What I have come to learn over the years is that each of my children where actually gifts that were sent to teach me lessons.

My first child, a son, was born when I was 17. It was a time in my life that I needed to feel, and experience unconditional love and he gave me that. He and I were like peas in a pod. It was hard being a single mom at such a young age but with good role models, family and friends we survived. I was able to graduate high-school as a junior, secure a job and support the two of us.

I later married and had my second child, also a son. He was born into a blended family which comes with its own set of circumstances and challenges; but in this case he seemed to be the light that brought everyone together. He was everyone’s brother and they all loved him equally. Wise beyond his years; he has walked in purpose, blazed trails and shared his gifts with thousands. He has never been afraid to stand up for what he believes in. No matter the cost.

A princess and tomboy all wrapped up in a pink package came into my life when I was 27. By this time, I had made many mistakes and was trying to find my way out of a dysfunctional and verbally abusive marriage. It took several years before I finally had the courage to leave. The wounds were deep. Learning to forgive him was the easy the part. Forgiving myself; decades.

As each of my children reached adulthood and began to make their own life decisions it was hard and, on many occasions, very painful to let them feel the consequences of their choices. With each of my children there were periods of separation; sometimes months and sometimes years. What feels like them not needing you anymore is really them learning to stand on their own. No matter the situation, it always works itself out one way or another. It may take months or even years, but it eventually comes full circle.

May you find what you have gained from having your children.

Happy Mother’s Day.

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